“Hypersensitivity has many facets It does not manifest itself in one way, and usually dominant are observed in some individual children.. hypersensitive children are outgoing and react with excess to various emotional stimuli. Others will dramatize the events they live, or stir some anxiety. In contrast, on an introvert side of hypersensitivity, it meets children inhibited rather anxious, who remain behind and can tend to somatize. But in all cases, hypersensitivity reflects a fragility, a vulnerability it is important to recognize and take into account to accompany the child better. Especially a tamed hypersensitivity can become a valuable asset to the existence … “, immediately raises Emmanuelle Rigon, French psychotherapist, author of the book Hypersensitive children .

Some life events

It is not yet possible to determine whether this characteristic is innate or acquired, if it is there in the background and may arise after Significant life events: adoption, bereavement, parental separation, illness during infancy, repeated hospitalizations, physical pain, premature birth, difficult relationship with the mother, the father from birth, parents’ vulnerability (depression … ) abuse … Important family events could cause hypersensitivity children: “Some behaviors of the entourage determine the feelings and beliefs that cause them to be situated facing the world in a position excessively sensitive. It is not a question of blaming parents accusing them of causing hypersensitivity of their child. In fact, the specificity of personality to react this way are the result of a complex alchemy. But involves, among others, certain family attitudes, which must be recognized in order to limit their impact. ”

The child may develop if flaws in a crucial sense of security to its mental construction, low self-esteem …

Various kinds of hypersensitive

Depending on the nature of the child, his family history, his life events, it can develop hypersensitivity, which can take different forms. “There is a common basis in hypersensitivity, but each of its forms varies according to length or progressive aspect or traumatic origin. Psychological tendencies of the child, his psychic anchor, and all the other traits, as well as the difficulties encountered, will condition the future shape of their hypersensitivity. “Shapes that can be combined in the same child and Besides determining events and difficulties that may arise.

That said, the psychotherapist is the question of how to help them live with their hypersensitivity, to use it wisely. not cure, though she insists: “It is not to distort the way of being and living of the hypersensitive child, or match it to an acceptable standard called sensitivity. However, if we can bring an element of nuance and reduce emotional reactivity, it can not find better! ”

How to help hypersensitive child?

To help his child, the first step is to observe and understand its operation. Then, several tracks can be adopted by parents. We can bring the child into perspective to the events of life, facts of daily that stimulate this sensitivity on edge, by being reassuring, constructive and helping it to see what is important. Thereafter, it is good to teach him to temporize before reacting, to appease its susceptibility s it lack of confidence in him, for example by listing his qualities and the positives of his life compared to other children. And because they are children who need to be secure, you have to be especially benevolent attentive, surround it with the distance that suits him but also taking into account the value of his opinion, his views, needs … But above all, we must help him tame his emotions when they manifest, stop and calmly put words to his feelings to defuse the situation and calm emotions through relaxation, more constructive attitudes qu’instinctives, etc.

Consulting a psychiatrist is not necessary unless the child is suffering or somatic manifestations that are too invasive. As explained Emmanuelle Rigon: “Hypersensitivity is also an opportunity.” It is accompanied by assets, as a justice of view and sharp critical thinking, creativity and imagination, intuition, altruism, a rich inner life, an intense relationship with life, great imagination and rich mental associations. “To realize their full potential intellectually, these sensitivities should be generated from this inhibits their personality or makes it too explosive for susceptibility.”

By Carine Maillard